Gear limitations and pain again

So now that ive begun playing guitar a bit more thoroughly again as time has finally slowed down for me a bit. And yet again my fingers have started shedding, literally. My middle finger now has three layers of skin ripped off from the tip, and well all four hurt a lot yet again. Its not even half as bad as when i started, back then i had to stop playing to relieve pain. Now i cud simply go through it mm. Another thing the muscles at the back of my hard are really stressed as i have moved on to sequences that makes me stretch my fingers over the fretboard. But ive been told that with regular basic practice the muscles wud get stronger just like body building in gym makes one stronger mm.

Besides this i realize my distortion really is a limitation now besides being a sore to my ears. Now to do some arpeggios and such i need to be able to do pull off and hammer ons, both are finger tapping techniques, no picking to make the sound. Now the problem is in a clean setting u cannot hear the tapping sounds unless u bash the guitar or something :P. And with distortion when i do play the arpeggio as fast as i shud it just makes noise, no im not playing badly, i noticed even when i play one single note its half sound and half noise. So at high speed all i am hearing is noise. I am into metal and other extreme stuff but even i dont like ear splitting noise, this is utterly impossible without better gear, sigh, oh well better get back to practice. There are always stuff i can practice with just the clean setting anyways